Marriage

Go For Broke Day, I’m All In

April 6, 2016 by Quin Leave a Comment

I’m a huge fan of bizarre holidays. I look for a way to celebrate or put a theme to whatever I can. I have so many dates to celebrate marked on my calendar it’s ridiculous… and awesome.

Did you know that today is “Go For Broke Day”? It’s a day where you put it all out there, and take a risk. I’m sure this occasion is a fun one to celebrate amongst the gambling crowd, “ALL IN!”, but why not relate it to other areas too?

What might that look like?

So if I’m going to “Go For Broke” with my children, it might mean:

I listen to every second of every far-fetched story that my son tells me.
I might give in to the request of reading the Elmo book for the 5^th time today.
I may declare it a dessert night and whip up some banana splits after supper.
Singing an extra verse or two of Amazing Grace at bedtime.
Being extra patient.
Playing on the floor and giggling along with the kiddos as we make silly animal sounds and crawl around like chickens.
Writing each child a note or coloring a picture, then tucking it next to their bed for them to find in the morning.

What if I “Go For Broke” in my marriage?

Listen closely. Not just listen and respond, but really try to HEAR what my husband is saying, and what he isn’t saying. Taking extra time to understanding his side of things and appreciate his perspective.

Fix a nice dinner that I know my husband will love, rather than frantically just landing something that was once frozen onto the center of the table at 6pm and calling it good- all while I yell at the top of my lungs to get everyone in the room and sitting down at the same time to quietly say grace together. Don’t judge, these homeschooling days are long. Even though I’m home all day, I am often more exhausted by 5 pm than when I worked outside the home (It’s not even the kids necessarily, I’m just more charged up by big crowds).

Tidy up all the miscellaneous things that have been put into our bedroom but don’t belong there (I’m notorious for this scenario, and maybe you are too? Company is coming so I fill a laundry basket with random stuff from around the house. Shove it in the bedroom and shut the door. Company leaves, I do nothing about the basket. Oops, laundry is done and I need a basket, dump that basket of stuff on the dresser and never put it away). So this day I think I’ll create a romantic oasis- or I mean at least a clutter free bedroom zone. Who am I kidding? I’m probably just going to throw half that stuff away because it’s easier and probably mostly outdated at this point, but hey it will actually look a little better.
Be excited about what he’s excited about. I really have no idea what that is right now, maybe something to do with a basketball game, and a property project at church? I’ll ask him.
Pray fervently about my husband’s health and what concerns him.
Love fiercely.

Going “All In” as a friend:

Taking a little time to text friends and check in with them, maybe set up coffee dates for next week.
Offering to bring a meal to a friend, or babysit for a couple hours.

I know these all sound like baby steps, but you all know it’s been a demanding season here lately and this is just where I am and what I can do today to be “all in”. I’m totally okay with this, and I hope that wherever you are right now, that you’re okay in that season too.

Fair Trade: Coffee and Accessories

October 26, 2015 by Quin Leave a Comment

Although my husband doesn’t like coffee, and I assure you I did not know this before I married him, he buys it for me anyways. In marriage there is commitment AND compromise, folks.

Over the last 11 years that I’ve been buying coffee (since I can’t just drink my parents’ for free any more) I’ve bought it from just about everywhere you can imagine. I’ve also bought it in several different brands, forms, and flavors. This time around I decided to try out the Fair Trade coffee from our church.

There are so many reasons to LOVE this coffee.

1. I can get it easily. Which is a plus, because I do NOT like to be out of coffee! I’m not addicted or anything, I just appreciate a hot cup of Joe in the morning, and sometimes even in the evening. In the afternoon I like it over ice.

2. It’s Fair Trade, which according to Google means “trade in which fair prices are paid to producers in developing countries.”

3. It’s organic. I have a terrible time with non-organic coffee giving me headaches when I drink it in bulk, which I pretty much always do.

4. It comes in Decaf and Regular. Occasionally I like to have choices.

5. It’s delicious! Truly, the flavor of this coffee is THE BOMB!

I’ve bought so many Fair Trade items from food, to apparel, to Christmas decorations, and always feel good knowing our money is going somewhere worthy and benefiting people who have worked well to earn it.

I did away with my coffee pots (yes I had multiples) a few years ago in an effort to clean up the counters. I use a French Press from Ikea that washes up well and stores nicely in a cupboard.

If you’re looking for a challenge this week try one of these:

Watch Where You’re Spending Your Money.

1. Are the purchases you’re making necessary?

2. Are they fairly benefiting both you and the person/company that you’re buying them from?

Clean up Your Counters

Unless you’ve got some mad skills or super powers, I’m sure there is SOMETHING you can do to clean up your counters a bit. I used to even put the toaster away in the pantry when we weren’t using it daily (now we don’t own one). Clean Counters=Calm & Order. It’s pure delight to walk into a kitchen with clean counters.

Sip Coffee and Relax

If you’re in a season where you want a challenge, but the thought of actually taking on one more thing stresses you out to the max, then THIS is the challenge for you!

Just take time to sip some coffee (OR TEA!) and relax.

*Note: If you are looking for a way to add some Fair Trade accessories to your wardrobe (like the scarf and earrings I’m wearing in the picture) check out Trades of Hope. There you will find beautiful scarves, jewelry, handbags and more! All Fair Trade, All Beautiful!

My Heart Today: The Orphans

October 4, 2015 by Quin Leave a Comment

Photo Courtesy of Courtney Lorenz Photography.

My family and I drove home from church today in our Town and Country van. We bought it new, had it custom-fit for our family, and delivered to the same dealership where we had bought our last minivan, just a couple years before that.

When we got home the kids got their top of the line Razor scooters out and rode around our driveway in front of our 3 stall garage.

I was a little worried about our youngest getting stains or scuffs on her new jeans since I just took the tags off of them this morning.

They’re kind of tight, but I don’t want to mess with returning them, so I think she’ll wear them for a few weeks and we’ll pass them on to someone else. We aren’t hard-pressed for clothing right now.

My husband took off his pressed button-up collared shirt and changed into an American Eagle sweatshirt and stood on the plush carpeted floor for our living room with his nearly new Nike tennis shoes.

From there he turned on our 50 inch LED TV, that we also bought brand new, and sat down to watch some football.

I came out to start typing some thoughts that were on my mind after the sermon this morning, and our oldest daughter is now happily doing a craft at the kitchen island.

Soon I’m going to join her and we are going to decorate our pumpkins we picked up on a fun family outing to a pumpkin patch yesterday.

Our middle son has a friend over and they’re playing with Legos. I cringe at the thought of how many hundreds of dollars worth of Legos we have floating around this 10-year-old house that we designed ourselves. What a difference it would make if even HALF that money was put towards feeding the hungry.

My point here is this: Gosh our life is good and while ordinary, or common, it really really quite luxurious. And I’m pretty sure we’re considered middle class. There are people that have it even “better” than we do in terms of material items.

Now I promise you it hasn’t always been this good; we have had struggles in our marriage, in a custody battle, in finances, etc.

But those struggles I’m telling you about, even though they were tough to endure, and seemed nearly impossible at the time were just that, ‘for a time’.

“First Word Problems” is how I’d hashtag all that stuff.

I am heartsick for orphans. I have had sympathizing tears streaming down my face all morning wondering how on earth I can help these children in need. I’ve prayed for these children for years, but now I want to use my own two hands to care for them.

I can prove that I can fiercely love a child I didn’t birth, because I’ve been doing it since our oldest was just a year old (through step-parent adoption, and Christ’s Love). I even fiercely love her birth momma and pray for her on the regular, but that situation is tougher than I can articulate through a blog post (maybe someday).

Never mind the fact that I know in my heart I love all children I meet, even the random children that play with my kids at the park for an afternoon, or the neighbor kids who stay for supper, or the kiddos who play video games in our basement.

Lord, I KNOW my heart is aching for these children who need homes, for a way to serve the poor, care for the weak and needy.

But HOW?! How God, do I do that without giving up too much of my cushy life? How do I get my family on board? Where is the community of people you talk about in the Bible? Because I’m going to need their support to do
this.

Why aren’t we ALL adopting? How do my husband and I agree to take on the tough stuff like this, when I feel like we’ve already endured so much of the tough stuff and now it’s “our turn” to just enjoy life while it is good?

Or maybe it’s time I do give up some of this cushy life. Maybe it’s time I quit pinning all the things I want in a new home on my Pinterest board and shift my focus to your sweet orphans.

Lord, can you send me some pins that teach me how to do that? I wish YOU, Lord, coud e-mail me a link to a blog post that describes my heart, and shows me a step-by-step outline of what comes next? Because God, if you don’t send it through my e-mail, there is a strong chance I may totally miss it. You see I’m fired up right now, but I know my wandering heart, it’s going to be checking Facebook and trying a new cookie recipe from the internet in less than a couple hours from now. I’m going to get a Gap or Children’s Place e-mail with a coupon code and fully take advantage of that- But what I WANT to do, is live for you. I want to care for your children, but my e-mail hasn’t shown up yet telling me how to do this.

On a day by day basis I am so focused on materialistic and earthly things. I’m so sick of it. I’m ready to live a deeper life that is beyond ME and all about YOU.

Show me how.

The Scare; Finding Peace

May 6, 2015 by Quin Leave a Comment

It rained all day yesterday.
My hubby took the day off of work to take me to my doctor appointment, the one for the breast exam. I told him I could’ve went on my own, but he knew better. I needed him there with me.

My mom watched the kids, and for that I’m so thankful, since it ended up being a whole day ordeal.

As we left for the doctor and made it about half a mile down the road, I remarked that it rained just like this, the morning of our wedding day.
That made me begin reminiscing all of our days together. We married young.

While I’ve been waiting to get my test and results and just embrace whatever stage I’m in, I questioned one thing.

Was I satisfied with our days together? Was he? Was I a worthy wife to this man who loves me so deeply?

I felt at peace knowing that yes, I was very satisfied with our relationship. Even though the toughest of tough days, horrible days, hopefully unlike many of you have ever had to face, I was satisfied knowing he was on my team.
I use the “leave it better than you found it rule” everywhere, even in my relationships. I don’t always succeed, but I do give it an honest effort and pray through the ones I’m struggling with.

I decided over the weekend that yes, I could leave my family now, knowing they were better than when I found them.

I heard my oldest daughter singing hymns and worship music multiple times last week. I saw my youngest (2) praying for her meals and shouting “GOD MADE ME!” to anyone who would listen. I witnessed my son, our middle child, practicing communion and mentioning that he was the man of the house when dad was at work. He prayed for selfless things that most kids his age would never think of. I felt as if they were each mature for their age and stage, and that they were doing things that would glorify God.

I was at peace.

Then I learned that my breast tissue was healthy, and that I needn’t worry.

Which means I get to keep teaching my children, my husband, myself, and everyone else about God’s good news.

I am still waiting for the results from one more test. I’m hopeful that will turn out just fine also. The doc didn’t seem concerned, so unless the test comes in and tells me otherwise, I’m claiming I’m healed, in Jesus’ holy and life giving name!

Reflections from my 10 yr class reunion

July 6, 2014 by Quin Leave a Comment

Thoughts the day before my class reunion:
I’m not going! But just in case I do, in the next 24hrs:
Drink water
Avoid carbs
Whiten teeth
Shave legs
Thoughts just hours before the reunion:
Crap, I ate carbs!
Could I buy one of those girdle things?
I really wasn’t cute in high school, so I’m sure no one is expecting much from me.
Thoughts minutes before waking in the door:
Suck in the tummy.
Smile. Be Happy. Do not show fear.
What if no one remembers me?
I walked by a classmate outside who completely ignored me, but in the ugly-obvious way. Like I saw you, made eye contact, and now I’m going to pretend like I don’t know you so you don’t bother me… I wanted to leave right then. I begged…My husband wouldn’t let me. Who invited him anyway? 😉 jk, I’m so glad he coaches me in awkward social situations.
Thoughts post reunion:
To the guys that were jerks in high school, and made no attempt to talk to me tonight, despite me smiling your way or actually saying hi; I hope you are sweet to your wives, instill confidence in your daughters and someday soften your hearts to the whole world.
There were a few people who went out of their way to say hi to me. I was surprised and genuinely grateful for their kindness.
My “group” from high school was there. They cracked me up all night. I’m thankful for their friendship, even after not seeing each other hardly at all for the last 10 yrs.
I’m glad I skipped the $60 girdle, because the people I would’ve worn it to impress didn’t talk to me anyway.
It’s the end of the night, my head is resting on my pillow as I finish up this post. I’m glad I went because I won’t have to wonder what it would’ve been like, or be filled with regret for staying home. But honestly, real true honesty here.. It was just okay. Good night world.

A Letter to my Children… & You

May 17, 2014 by Quin Leave a Comment

Written for my children, for when they are older and will understand it more. But maybe you {my dear readers} could use this right now, too? I know I would benefit from these words being spoken to me daily.

My Dear Children,
I pray you are clinging tightly to Jesus. Be ready. Be ready for whatever comes your way, whether you think it to be good or worry it may cause strife.
I want you to be BOLD in your conversations and in your actions. You can be bold, kindly.
Act as Jesus would.

Soften your hearts. Drop your guard, & be genuine. Yes, please, please be genuine. And forgiving.
Don’t be afraid of a disappointment. Do and say the things God lays on your heart so you have no regret over the things you left undone.
Time will run out. You don’t have forever to do it all. Your life on Earth will end. Make the time for the things that matter. Quit hiding behind excuses that are inflicted by your insecurities.
They say people will forget what you’ve said but remember how you made them feel. I hope you never forget the feeling of being absolutely positively loved by me, your momma.
I want you to be aware that in this life some people will work to twist your words and hurt you. Please, when you can, stray from them. Just stray.
Make your mark on the world & shine brightly.
Take time to heal your soul. It needs refreshing more often than you’d think.
Take time to address any internal problems you feel arise.
Always be ready to move on.
It isn’t guaranteed that you will get a warning for when your time comes to meet our Heavenly Father, so just be ready.
Never forget to work in face to face conversations. I don’t care how easy social media is when you are older, it’s not the same as human contact. Use it as a tool, do not let it distract you.
I want you to know how to play at least one tune on either guitar or piano. Never turn down an opportunity to perform.
Smile, please?
When you meet “the one” never forget that they are the ONE. I believe we each only get one shot at marriage. Pray often for your spouse. Don’t be afraid to ask them to pray for you, be specific. Love them fully and passionately.
Wherever there is bad, there is also GOOD. Seek it out.
Regularly step out of your comfort zone and see how much you’ll grow.
Make time for fun!
When you need spiritual help, get it. If you need counseling, get it. Never be ashamed to ask for help.
Don’t go this life alone. Keep Jesus in your heart and goodness on your mind.
I.Love.You.
Momma

Just a Few Quick Notes

February 27, 2014 by Quin 1 Comment

I don’t have time to write out a full blog post but I want
to share a few quick notes I’ve taken at MOPS this year.

If you are a parent, you are a leader. You will always be a leader.
Put verses where you can soak them in. This is as simple as writing out a verse on a note card
and sticking it at the kitchen sink, on the mirror, or on the door so you see it before you head out.
Praise First!
Don’t keep secrets from your spouse. Share EVERYTHING. There isn’t such thing as sharing too much in
a marriage.
Men, although they are tough on the outside, are fragile on the inside. Remember that, and treat them accordingly.
It’s okay to want good things, but not more than we want to please the Lord.

Flag Day

June 10, 2013 by Quin Leave a Comment

This Friday June 14th marks Flag Day. This also happens to be the wedding anniversary of my loving parents.
My father tells a great story about how he fooled my young mother into thinking he hung flags all around town for their first wedding anniversary. 😉

If you are looking for a song to teach your children about Flag Day try out this fun one we found on YouTube.
Watch “Flag Day Song for Kids (FREE LYRICS BELOW) DidiPop Kids Music” on YouTube

Meal Time Makeover- Day 3.. Perfect?

September 29, 2010 by Quin 1 Comment

It’s day 3 and things are going well! Just a quick update, Chad’s breakfast was homemade granola bars. I made a batch yesterday so he will be able to take those all week if he chooses to. Simple and so much better for him than the store bought, although I’m sure I can find an even healthier recipe, this is what we’re doing for now.
He made his lunch. We had a nice chat over the phone while he ate.
For supper we struggled, do we order pizza, make taco’s (yes, we also have a taco Tuesday night)… or eat frozen chicken patties again. We went with the frozen chicken patties, I think their simplicity and flavor are both addicting.
During supper my sweetheart and I both were teasing the princess with “LOOK! A baby mongoose” and dipping our sandwiches her ranch when she wasn’t looking.
She’s caught on pretty quick. Without a word, she smiled, got up and grabbed the ranch bottle. She strutted her stuff over to the table and before I could say a word or get my hand up to stop her she was pouring half the bottle of ranch onto my plate (you ever have those bottles that just POUR out when you only want a dab, this is one of those). OH MY! We haven’t laughed that hard in a long time! I mean I laughed so hard I cried!!
Then my Mr. Awesome got up and announced he would be having a salad. LOL! Of course using the dressing that was left on my plate.

Highlights of my day:

The one on one time I had with each family member, even if I didn’t get any time to myself.
The awesome playdate this morning.
Grocery shopping.
Turning in old video games for store credit at Gamers.
Good phone conversations with my daddy.
Lunch with my mom.
A family walk.
A hilarious family dinner.
And now blogging. I think I might actually like blogging!

Today was a success, a true success!

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